Tibetans teach to view those you are sexually attracted to as mounds of gristle, to paraphrase loosely.
Envision the object of your interest as a pile of internal organs, as bones and skeleton, as veins and blood flow. As you see in medicine, as micro cameras seek internal problems. See them as those internal problems.
See them as any part of the human anatomy and functionality which least pleases you.
I believe that I noted this in the book "My Perfect Teacher".
Some items from "Centering":
64. Just as you have the impulse to do something, STOP.
71. When some desire comes, consider it. Then, suddenly, QUIT IT.
76. In moods of extreme desire, be =undisturbed=.
80. Objects and desires exist in me as in others. So accepting, let them be =translated=.
